[Hooping.org columnist Lara Eastburn helps us discover our roots.]
The day you met the hoop, you began an intense and personal relationship. The circumstances surrounding that day, and that moment can provide you with meaningful insight about the emotions and desires that – just beneath the surface, and whether you are aware of them or not – continue to fuel, motivate, and direct the course of your hooping. Many of us can easily make a division between when we were not yet a hooper and when we became one. There was a “before the hoop” and an “after”. In retrospect, all of our greatest loves – people, places, activities – seem to have come into our lives at just the right moment. So what may have first appeared to be random when it was happening, we often realize later on was anything but chance. The events leading up to the moment that you fell in love with hooping can reveal much about what brought the hoop into your life, what called you to it and what attracted it to you. Here’s an exercise you can do quickly and easily to bring you back to that moment, no matter how far you think you’ve come, and can help you remember the agreement you two made in that instant.
Step 1: Get a quiet space, paper and pen ready. Begin a journaling exercise by mentally recalling the circumstances surrounding your first encounter(s) with the hoop. There may be more than one that sticks out in your mind. For each, draw a circle on the blank page and, inside it, write, draw or doodle the most immediate elements involved – the people, the place, the date, a feeling, a longing…. anything and everything that comes to you.
Step 2: Now outside each circle, continue writing whatever comes to your mind from all of the things that were happening in your life at the time, to your relationship with what you wrote down in the middle of each circle. Do your best not to edit yourself and don’t worry about repetition. Everything you think of is important.
Step 3: Draw arrows, or some other connecting mark, to show the path of your associations. Trace backward from those moments through what led up to each of them, as far as you care to go.
Step 4: When you feel done, summarize the thoughts you wrote down in a sentence or a few words somewhere on the page. Then, if you feel so led, pick up your hoop. Put those thoughts into motion and bring the truth of those memories into your present.
You can think of it as couple’s therapy. It was, after all, more than love at first sight for you and your hoop. If you’re feeling wary, I met the hoop the same day I met my husband. Now we’re both having a second honeymoon! Whatever you discover, don’t be intimidated by the emotions that surround the beginning of your hoopdance. Embrace and enfold them into your practice. They have more to tell you than you think about how the two of you came together.
Lara Eastburn has been dancing in meadows and singing with the moon while spinning in circles for eons at Superhooper.org. She’s also the driving force behind Circumference with online and live business and marketing classes for hoop makers, instructors, and performers.