Do you know a couple that hoops together? Though I can think of a few romantic hooping duos in my own social circles, I’d bet that many of us have partners that haven’t yet jumped in. I’m among them. Even though my other half and I run a hooping business together, make hoops together, and have at least three hooping-related conversations a day, my darling dear puts a hoop around his waist maybe once a year … for all of a few seconds. If you’ve met my handsome hubby, you’ve probably heard him intone his sing-songy refrain, “Nope, Drew don’t hoop.”
Now, to be fair, Drew won’t dance, walk, or run with me either. He’s hip to the hoop, just not down with shaking his hips inside one. Your non-hooping partner, like mine, is likely very supportive of your passion — you look great doing it and it makes you happy, right? — but odds are that, on occasion, you’ve wished that hoop-love was something you shared. So, what’s to be done? Are you doomed to forever be the solo hooper in your couple?
Maybe. There’s no saying your partner won’t catch the hoop-bug one day, but luckily, it’s not a deal-breaker. Here are a few ways to make the hoop something that brings the two of you together … even if you’re the only one hooping.
Do it together. Hooping, like many spiritual, fitness, and lifestyle regimens, benefits from a regular practice. Whatever your partner’s exercise routine, make it coincide with your hoop-time. If you can do your thing, and they can do theirs, in the same space, even better! Coordinating your fitness-meditation-fun time is simple enough and the benefits are more than worth it.
1) For one, you’ll provide one another with at-home accountability. Committing to being active together significantly increases your chances of sticking to your practice goals. It doesn’t matter whether you hoop while they do yoga or pump iron. As long as you’re doing it together, you’re supporting one another and keeping each other on track.
2) You’ll deepen your bond. Exercise of any kind brings on the feel-good brain chemicals that increase feelings of happiness and decrease feelings of stress. And yes, it boosts your libidos, too! Big time. Double win, my friends.
3) You’ll be working on communication – whether you’re talking or not. Just by sharing your workout time, you’re showing one another your respect and support. Add in eye contact and some well-placed encouragement — Lookin’ Good! — and you’re building intimacy.
Before and After. If your workout routines require different spaces, but you still schedule them at the same time, you can work together during warm-up and stretching. Maybe you even make the argument for hooping as the ultimate ab workout or warm-up you can share.
Involve Your Partner in Your Practice. Drew don’t hoop, but I just melt when he catches me out of the corner of his eye and says, “Hey, that looks cool!” He’s always eager to film a video, or take some stunning photographs. He watches me experiment, learn, get frustrated and erupt in joy. Whatever I’m doing, he reminds me always that I’m one fantastic hooper. No, Drew don’t hoop, but I never hoop alone.
Hooping.org columnist Lara Eastburn has been dancing in meadows and singing with the moon while spinning in circles for eons at Superhooper.org. Beyond commenting here, you can also discuss this and other topics related to the Hooposophy for living in Hooping.org’s Hooposophy Group and Forum. Lara is also the planting and gardening force behind discovering our hooping community roots at The Hooping Family Tree Project.